My name is Sheliza (Shelly) and I reside in Columbia, South Carolina with my beautiful family. I have been married to my high school sweetheart, Dwayne, for 24 years and counting. I’m a mother of three- Chardonnay (23), Briahnna (21), and Willam (10). I’ve been a stay-at-home mom for 23 years. I’ve been a blogger for more than 11 years now at momfiles.com. I have a great passion for cooking and food overall. My husband tells me I will find any reason to cook something. He’s right! Aside from my blog, I am a Social Media manager for a few businesses, and I homeschool my youngest child. My days are all about juggling my time between work, school, homemaking, and not losing my mind.
CONNECT WITH SHELLY
Q. How did becoming a mother change you?
Shelly: It definitely made me slow down a whole lot. It has taught me lessons of growth along the way. I am definitely not the same person I started out as.
Q. Are you a conventional or unconventional mother?
Shelly: Unconventional. I don’t follow any parenting trends or rules. I do what comes naturally.
Q. What is the hardest part of being a Mother based on your experience?
Shelly: Definitely the way I handled the teenage years with my older two. I thought I was going to lose it completely at least 1,753,562,063 times. Teenage moods are not for the weak.
Q. Is Motherhood different than you had imagined? Is your reality better than what you imagined?
Shelly: I think it everything I ever imagined. I wanted to be a mother since I was 5 years old believe it or not. Although I have had my fair share of days that I wanted to give up, I find it has gotten a lot easier with time. I have enjoyed it, and think I’m pretty good at it.
Shelly: I am. I became the mother I dreamed of having for myself to my own children. Having a narcissist as a mother really made me want to be the best I could for my children. Since I was a child, I would tell myself that I would never be anything like her. Thankfully I have succeeded.
Q. What do you do for ‘me time’? Or share something you do to recharge.
Shelly: I get a lot of me time daily, so that’s not something I really struggle with. If life gets too overwhelming, we take a quick trip to the beach to recharge.
Q. Share a family tradition you do with your kids.
Shelly: Every Christmas we head to Myrtle Beach for vacation. We go to the outlets to get the after-holiday deals and eat at a specific restaurant each time. We also have our very competitive UNO championship game. Most importantly, we make memories together.
Q. What is the biggest mistake you’ve made as a mother?
Shelly: It has definitely been to not do too much for my kids. I had a rough childhood, so I feel like I have over-compensated at times by doing more than I should for my children.
Q. What’s the one thing you wish you could do differently as a mother?
Shelly: Honestly, nothing. I do the best I can every day. That’s all you can do, and all anyone can expect.
Q. As a mother, what do you feel you miss out on the most?
Shelly: Having real-life friends. It’s especially hard since I homeschool my youngest.
Q. What is one thing you wish to teach your children?
Shelly: Being a more seasoned mother, I see a lot of what I wanted my kids to learn from me is being put into action. The adult children are successful and thriving. The youngest has access to me 24/7. The main thing I do always want them to do is to practice patience and always, ALWAYS be grateful.
Q. What is your biggest fear as a mother?
Shelly: Probably my kids not finding a suitable spouse. Times are surely different!
Q. What word would your kid (s) use to describe you? and why?
Shelly: Comfort. They all find a sense of warmth and comfort from me on their hardest days. I try to show them that it’s okay to stay a little soft in a hard world.
Q. What is one piece of advice you would give a new or expectant mother?
Shelly: Trust your gut. It never lies.
Q. What do you wish your kid (s) knew about you?
Shelly: I don’t think there is much else they could know about me since I have always been very open and honest about my life. I tell them all the time what I want them to know– good or bad.
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